Success is always around us

‘Success’ is a mystical thing. All of us want to be successful. Yet most of us want a free ride to success. Even though the intent is there within us to succeed, most of all aren’t willing to do what’s needed to become successful.

My weekend started off with a working Saturday by the end, I was quite tired & exhausted. In such cases, Sunday becomes a treasured day. But as I woke up in the morning, I was feeling quite lazy and completely purposeless. Though, I had few things which needed my attention, I wasn’t at all inspired to do anything on that. My mind was occupied with something which was wondering about something which left me powerless. All I did was switch on the TV, had food, lie on bed & pass time. The day passed like seconds. 

In the evening, when I was conversing with a friend, I realized that how much we take life for granted. There are so many things which inspire us, motivate us to do something, yet we end up choosing to pass time, wondering about things we don’t have & get stuck on issues, be it with people, our worries, problems etc. In the process, we exhaust the most precious resource which is NOW, instead of being at our best and when we are at our best, success becomes an outcome.

That’s when I thought I was stuck in the same trap. Few things which I had been planning to do, like writing a blog, reading a book, planning few things all were put on hold, just because I was waiting for something to happen and since that didn’t materialize, other things got inadvertently impacted. But the moment I realized that, I chose to work on. I did some exercise which usually makes me feel good in the end, switched on my fav music which usually inspires me & then got down to work on the things which mattered and which I wanted to accomplish. Here, Iam penning an article for my blog which I had been planning on for more than 3 weeks.

It is said that amidst the busyness of life, the simple things get side tracked. Most often the simple things are the most important as well. In the daily rush of our life, we make the simple things complicated. What’s needed to simplify our life is just to take a step back and look at what we have. Usually, the stuff which are required for us to be happy & be successful is just around  us. Be it caring parents, friends, resources to utilize, all is just with us. We just need to recognize and then choose to act on that.

I didn’t intend to pen a gyaan type post, yet for me it was a big realization on how daily moments just slip pass by while we keep waiting for things to happen, hoping for things to happen & wonder if things will happen. I took a step in doing something productive & break myself out from the quicksand of ‘waiting & wondering’ which goes on & on.

What we have with us for sure is NOW, and if we can choose to look at the things which we have with us & act, then in due time, things will surely happen.

Success is always around us, isn’t? 

Popularity Vs Personality

I was reading a book by Alfred John in which the author was talking about the differences between Popularity and Personality.It does sound pleasing to ears, isnt ?? I had a few thoughts twirling in my mind on these.So i thought to put it up in a place where plenty of erudite minds will give their opinion and share their own thoughts.

Popularity and Personality - an average person yearns for at-least one of these in his life,with more emphasis being on the "Popularity" part ! Its a known fact that Man is a social animal and one of his inherent urge is "to get recognition" from his peers and since Popularity ensures more recognition, people want to have popularity. Popularity comes as a consequence of a person's talents/abilities and his ability to show them to others. One might be a singer possessing a melodious voice or a entertainer with amazing acting skills or a superb sportsmen. hence depending on the success of the person,they become popular figures. For those who think they don't have the talent to be popular, they try to find someone who has it and live their lives basking in other's popularity.



A strong validation for this is the popularity which the film stars and the sportsmen have in their life.One thing to be noted here is that the Popularity of a person is directly proportional to his success. Popularity can have different levels. One may be popular in his group, or in his class, or in his school, town,state-wise or in his nation. People throng behind such figures because of the apparent image which they project outside. In real, they might be of any type, their real type known only to the close people whom they are in contact. But often, people are carried away from the apparent outside image which is projected... My inherent idea of writing this post is to emphasize the real significance of "Personality".

I would say that Personality has been grossly under-rated when compared with Popularity. From an early child hood, parents raise their kids saying that you must become a famous doctor,famous this, rich this, etc. Its like we are programmed to worship these and will do anything to get it. Its only a few percentage of parents who raise their children embedding them the benefits of a good personality.And believe me, I strongly believe that those children will grow up to become a Well groomed and a Dynamic person. So what is all this Personality about. Personality is a set of characters which define you as a person.




What do you believe in, what will you stand for, what defines you and to what extent you are in harmony with yourself... A person with a strong personality will be at ease always and will retain his composure always, no matter what the circumstances might be. He may not have the popularity , but people will flock to him in times of distress or when they need some solution, because they find him a person who has a solution to anything. One of the important characteristics of a person with a Strong Personality is the fact that one knows themselves. As they say in Matrix, 'Know thyself', a person who knows about himself inside out will be more empowered to take decisions in a wise and logical manner. While Popularity may give one fame,money , Personality will give you the inner peace.

I know there is a lot more to this and that the process of self-learning/realization goes on till eternity, yet i strongly believe that if we start emphasizing more on achieving a good Personality rather than a good Popularity, there will be no limits to unlocking our potential and living a life way beyond our dreams.

GodSpeed everyone !! :)

The Miracle Man

We are unlimited beings. We have no ceiling. The capabilities and the talents and the gifts and the power that is within every single individual that is on this planet, is unlimited.

Rev. Dr. Michael Beckwith

I have always felt inspired by the story of the Miracle Man. If some of you are wondering who is this Miracle Man, allow me to explicate more on this. Morris GoodMan, was one of the leading life insurance salesmen in the world, a member of The Million Dollar Round Table and Top Of The Table. Morris had success, fame, fortune, and a brand new airplane.

And then things turned upside down. While attempting to land his airplane one afternoon Morris crashed. With his neck broken at C1 and C2, his spinal cord crushed, and every major muscle in his body destroyed. Morris was no longer able to perform any bodily function except to blink his eyes. His injuries were too severe for him to survive. He was as crushed and broken as the worst one can imagine.When he was admitted in the hospital, the doctors believed that he will be confined to bed for remaining of his lifetime and his survival was by itself a miraculous thing. Anyone would have gone by that notion and would have resigned himself to his fate. But not Morris GoodMan.

THE PLANE AFTER CRASH

The only function he could do was to blink his eyes. So he conceived a method to communicate with others with the help of his sister. His sister wrote down the alphabets in a 5,5 matrix and by blinking his eyes he would point to each alphabet and through that make sentences and convey his thoughts. During the months that followed his plane wreak, Goodman became stronger in his mind –and with each passing day, one by one the injuries he received in that accident were healed –defying any medical explanation because he restored health in areas of the body that were believed to be immune to recovery once taking on the types of injuries Morris had sustained. He fought back just as hard and he never wavered or gave up hope and continued to insist that he was going to make a complete recovery.

He made a wish for himself for the upcoming Christmas.He vowed to himself to literally walk out of the hospital on Christmas Day. Morris knew that if he was healing a body so broken and damaged as his own, he could do anything with sheer will and tenacity alone. How could he believe anything else when his hope and faith in God where all he had to reach out to? He had noting but determination and time on his hands and he was sure he could reach his goal no matter what the odds against him dictated.

Day by day, on and on Morris worked with his Physical Therapist and pushed his body beyond its own limits. He would listen to his favorite motivational speaker –Zig Zigler through out the day and he kept his mind clear of any doubt. He was on a mission and he was not going to fail –that was simply not an option for Morris Goodman. Before he knew it December had arrived and he had regained the full use of his voice. his body was no longer in a state of paralysis but moving and mobile –just as he had predicted it would be –and he was breathing on his own again – all without the help of any type of medical gadget.

As his due date for release came closer he was a brand new instrument inside out and he knew he was going to have his Christmas wish fulfilled. As was the vision –Christmas Day arrived and Morris was met with tears of joy by the hospital members who had given so much of their time and support to see this “Miracle Man” reach his goal of walking out the door by his own accord…and that is exactly what he did on December 25th 1981.He walked forward into an unknown future and left behind him an entire hospital staff watching in utter amazement a man no one believed would survive his injures let alone fully recover from each and everyone of them- helped himself right on out the door!

MORRIS GOODMAN

When he met the head surgeon for the last time before leaving the hospital, the head surgeon said "Mr.Morris,, I never thought that you will be walking on your own some day". This is indeed a miracle. for which, Morris replied : "I never even for a moment, thought that i couldnt do it.". No wonder, it became a Miracle and Morris christened the Miracle Man.,.

Today Morris is a highly sought after speaker who travels the world sharing his story with millions of people and teaching his philosophy on goal setting and personal growth and development.

Another notable belief of Morris while he was in hospital was that he had a card board written "SNEOP" in it and he used to see it daily. So what was this SNEOP. It stood for

"SUSCEPTIBLE TO NEGATIVE INFLUENCE OF OTHER PEOPLE".

The interesting thing here was that he was not only fighting the physical impairments he had to battle with that had been left behind after is mid-air disaster –he had to fight the very same doctors who had initially saved his life as well. No matter how much his body repaired itself, they continued to tell him that a full reversal of his injuries was just not possible. He believed he will recover and for once he didn't allow anyone else belief to overlie on his own. So every time he saw the cardboard he used to remind himself of the negative thoughts of other people which might influence him and in turn threaten to wrest control of his mind from him.

So much for our own life, where we allow others beliefs and thoughts to over shadow ours and we began to life someone else life instead of living our own. As Steve Jobs rightly said :

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

Know Thy Personality Panache's

It is wisdom to know others; It is enlightenment to know one's self.

- Lao-Tzu

Where ever you go, as long as you know about yourself , you can manage any situations. There is a parable saying "A very large croc could very well overpower a lion in deep water", where as in dry land the crocodile is as handicapped as a boat without a sails in a stormy sea. Life presents us many challenges throughout our life and its up to us how we choose to face it. And when we know ourself to some extent , our strengths, our weakness, we can adapt ourself to the situation so that we play according to our strengths and improvise our weakness. Good leaders learn their specific personal strengths and weaknesses, especially in dealing with other people, then build on the strengths and correct the weaknesses.


Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist & an influential thinker, who had prescribed the Jungian psychology, where he classifes people based on their personality types. We had a soft skill session wherein based on our responses to the predetermined questions, the nature of our personality type is determined. The major of them are of 4 types. They are: Intuitor,Feeler,Thinker and Sensor. Now, i will give a brief idea about each one of the personality types.

Intuitor: Intuitor, as the name suggest is someone who intuits a lot. Such people are very creative and are original in their ideas. They are quite dreamy (Not the dreams in Night, but Day-Dream ), and are mostly lost in the world of their own.

Feeler: Feeler is someone who values relationship the most. They are very empathetic and loyal and they are concerned about how other people consider them . They always take care while dealing with people, lest they shouldn't hurt anyone's feelings( feelings of people who they like).
Thinker: Thinker are those types who are very rational and are analytic in their approach. They consider everything in an objective manner. They are concerned about details a lot and want facts and figures to get them convinced about something.

Sensor: Sensor, are those kind of people who are action oriented.They are generally competitive and are confident and assertive. They are similar to thinker in the way that, they are objective, and have a regard for facts and figures to base their decision rather than jumping blindly in to something. They are practical in their approach.

Answering your question as to why I'am describing all this and how useful it will for anyone, a little insight into people's personality types will help us get along with others. Once we understand what type the other person is, one can comprehend as to why a person is behaving in a particular manner.

When someone considers other as Greedy or selfish, its because from his point of view, he thinks the other person is greedy. Whereas some other person might have a completely different view. each personality types has his/her strengths and weakness. Understanding them will enable us to see their point of view and accordingly arrive at a consensus. So in a project or any other situation, where we are expected to work as a group, assigning each person roles which complements his personality type will ensure that his 100% talent is utilized.

Being working in a software industry, i will be a bit selfish and take an example of a software Project scenario. Suppose a project has to be finished within a particular deadline, if a person who is a feeler is given the job of analyzing and estimating the project requirements, we can very well imagine how efficiently he can do the work. If the same job is done by a Thinker, his natural inclination to find and have the facts will result in proper analyzing of the project estimates. (Its not as if Feelers cant do analysis, its just that person who is more Thinker-oriented will be more accurate in his projections.)


Also in a family, if the husband is a Sensor, and the wife is a feeler, if both of them understands each other type , they can adjust within themselves because they can understand as to why the other person behaves in a particular way. The well known case is, when husband/wife are leaving to a party, the wife spends ages getting ready for the party,(assuming she is a feeler, and the husband , a sensor, who is more action-oriented, no doubt he will be furious about this... The wife will be much concerned about how the party guest may perceive her and will spend hours on beautifying herself,whereas the husband will have no clue as to why and what is causing the delay. I just quoted this on a funnier note, yet there might be countless situations where we get wild with some because what we assume as the other person's stubborness might be his personality style itself.

Quoting Hans Bender ,

The core of my personality consists of many selves.

Like wise each individual is a composite mixture of many different personality types.as in the Personality Types overlaps.For eg, a person may be a mixture of Intuitor,Feeler,Sensor and Thinker. The degree to which he showcases each of the types may vary accordingly. Its a fact that a person can strengthen or improve one's particular personality by consciously working on it.

Well, my main point in sharing this article , I would like to have Marilyn vos Savant saying to explain that:

“Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses”

Secret of Magical Life - Part II

Hi All,

Iam happy to say that my previous two post "Power of Positive Talk" and the "Secret of Magical Life - Part I" was very well received. I had many people thanking me for sharing such wonderful information with them. Iam sincerely happy and thank you all for your encouragement. I also thank my friend who had forwarded the information to me. In my second part of "Secret of The Magical Life", i was to share the second empowering word which will make an immense difference in your life.,.


After reading the "Secret of The Magical Life - Part I", Iam sure you are better placed to face the Challenges in your life. And more Challenges you face,the more you grow. Now to empower yourself, we have the second empowering word.,. Any guesses ...? Well, i had given you a clue in my previous post.,.The EMPOWERING WORD IS "TAKE CONTROL".

"Take Control" of Whom ? Why control. Isnt it kinda dominating ? If it makes no sense to you, let me explain and Iam sure you will be more comfortable in Taking control.,. ;). Before i elucidate further, i would like to say the instances when the above word if used can empower us to a great extent. Generally when people say bye to each other, we bid adieu by saying "TAKE CARE". Thats how it has been said and how we have been saying it.

Well , let me ask you a simple question. What does the word "TAKE CARE" imply ? "Take Care" suggest that you are telling to other person to take care of his life. The Oxford dictionary gives the meaning of care as "a feeling of or occasion for anxiety" or "feel concern or interest".

Many a times, we use the word "Take Care" mostly with small kids or patients, who need someone to take care of them. Hence when we use the word, "Take Care", we repeatedly program the receiver's mind (the person to whom the word is addressed) to take care of his life, which indirectly hints that he is not yet capable of taking control of his life.This may not be obvious, but the reality is we indirectly influence our closest people . Some of you may agree on this and some not, yet if one can fathom the immense power of his mind, then one can understand how programming our mind can affect our life to a major extent. Simply putting it, if "Take Care" makes a person get less confident mentally, "Take Control" programs our mind to take control of our life.

Imagine a situation. Your friend or hubby is in a dull mood. He calls you up and shoots down his sorrows to you. Just before you hung up, if you finish with "Take Care" , it will be programmed in his mind as "Be cautious in your approach and your situation is something of concern". No matter he will be in the same situation again. In contrast if you finish your conversation by saying "Take Control", you will leave him with a wise thought, that he can Take Charge of your life..,. He will definitely be better off and he will be definitely in much better spirits.


As someone rightly said,

" We cannot always control what is happening around us,but we can decide how we react to it ".

Wishing you aN empowered life.

Its your Life, Live it...

TAKE CONTROL

POWER OF POSITIVE TALK !!

This continues my previous post about making your life magical. The "Language" which we use has a major impact in our daily life. I got a forward from my friend which elucidated the power of positive language. Surely, reading this is going to change your thinking.,. So, here you have

"THE POWER OF POSITIVE TALK"

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree. I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did… fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary. My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism. These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc.". If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.

• But: Negates any words that are stated before it.

• Try: Presupposes failure.

• If: Presupposes that you may not.

• Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.

• Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.

• Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)

• Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.

• Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:

Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

You are the most important asset you have; treat yourself accordingly.

--- Lucy MacDonald

SECRET OF MAGICAL LIFE !!

If someone is thinking that Iam going to explain about magic and suggest a few tricks , Hey MaN, you are in the wrong place...! Well Iam going to share some immense powerful secrets ( Ok, i wont exaggerate, They are simple words which we use in day today life, but have immense potential to change our life.,. Here we go ...


There is a basic tenet for Happy Life. Representing it diagrammatically, it will be like this:

THOUGHTS ----> BELIEF-----> ACTIONS

We all know that "Its what we do that defines us". It translates to the fact the according to the thoughts you have in mind, you will perform actions, which will inturn determine your conditions. Now, the purpose of this post is something similar which will help us empower ourself.

We will start with the first of the three mentioned i.e Thoughts. So how does one get thoughts. A lot of factors determine that !! Very true,like Our environment,the kind of activity we do etc... Also, there is something called "Language" or "Words" which we use which in turn will determine our thoughts to some extent. To give an idea, take a situation wherein you are waiting for a train or a bus. Assuming supposedly, that you are in a hurry, the normal mentality will be to be in a anxious state, cursing everyone , the bus, the government,the bus driver, the people at home who got us late,... and predicting the end of all things.

Its a common sight we see, when words like "F$^&#" and other "Star rated words" take prominence in our language. Now let us sit back and see the situation from a different perspective. The arrival of the bus , whether we want it or not, is outside our control. No matter how much we jump and bring the skies to the ground, the bus timing is least going to be affected due to it. Alternatively, if we could have saved the "cursed out" energy for some useful purposes, it wouldn't might make much difference, (except bringing down our Blood Pressure, and also the Blood Pressure of people around us.)

All of us have problems in our life. And most of us need someone to whom we can cry our worry out, someone who can boost us up. When we have a difficult situation to face, we immediately label it as "PROBLEM". And thanks to our society mind set, anything called PROBLEM is no less than devils incarnate. No matter how simple, the issue might be, we blow it out of proportion by labeling it as PROBLEM. Iam sure that many of us can relate to that fact, when someone would have come to us and said I have a problem, we look for the easiest way out from that place.Reason being, nobody wants themselves to be in a PROBLEM as Problem always brings us bad times...

Hmm.,., Instead while facing a difficult situation, if one calls it a Challenge , or a issue, it might lessen the intensity of the situation. Another good thing about the word "CHALLENGE" is that, we have a intrinsic mindset about the word "CHALLENGE" ie. we will face the Challenge. We get the attitude "I Vs Challenge". So obviously, you will be much more empowered to handle the task at hand, by mere using the word "CHALLENGE" instead of the word "PROBLEM".

This empowering mindset will go a long a way in ensuring that you face the issue at hand with more confidence and with more clarity. What more, people will love to throng around you as you will be the one who can challenge any of the PROBLEMS. Ultimately your charm and influence increases... So one of the way we empower ourself is by deciding whether we face a PROBLEM or CHALLENGE a PROBLEM.

The other empowering word i will share in my next post !! Ok, here i give a clue. Find it if you can. ;)

Have a Empowering Life !!

Take Control :)

A Day with Management Trainer !!

"Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall."

— Stephen R. Covey

Today we have with us a person who ensures that the leadership of companies are leaning against the right wall. He is Mr.Rajendra Deshpande, a Management Trainer, a Certified Trainer In Aviation & Hospitality , Sales & Marketing. He was appointed By Govt Of India Ministry Of Tourism,CBSP.Programme. and has been awarded By American Express.Best Forex.Centre.He has extensive work experience of 27 years and is a Sales trainer for the past 13 years.

Host : Prashant Sree --- ME

Guest: Rajendra Deshpande --- RD

ME: Welcome to the Show, Mr. Rajendra. We are pleased to have you in the show.
RD: Thank You.

ME: What are you passionate about in Life ?
RD: To get the drive for ones life,You need to be passionate about your work.I am trainer .I believe management training has to transform one life.I derive immense pleasure in making my participants successful in life.I derive Happiness in making others happy.

ME: Thats really nice. What have you learnt in your life which you would like to share with others ?
RD: I have got power of transformation from landmark education & also from my spiritual guru.I meditate,I practice & most Important is -- Living In full integrity, Honoring your word.Living in Integrity gives you power from within.people see your word becoming true. so your word gets power.

ME: Well said. If you are given a wish to change one thing in world, what would you change ?
RD: If u want to bring change in others you need to change first.Change begins from you.you are the cause in the matter.

ME: Like we say , "Be the Change You want to See". Who is your Favourite Mythological Hero and why ?
RD: "Swami Macchindra Nath.".. Lord Shiva Transfered All the knowledge of Yogic Science to him and it is he who brought & spread this knowledge to the world .we all see the results. He is one single Hero who brought & spread Science of Yoga on this Planet. He is the one single Hero who is instrumental in spreading Health & Happiness at no cost, to anyone everyone.His work in Universe is demonstrated doesnt need any evidence.

ME: Who do you consider your role models and why ?
RD: I consider Mahatma Gandhi,& Lord Gautam Buddha as my role models. In the period,when communication was very poor,no technology available,They could spread & market their thoughts,their teachings, all across the world.

ME:I admire that. Very few people pursue Yoga and its great to find a person so passionate about Yoga ;). What would you like to evangelize in your life ?
RD: "Tourism is one activity if promoted well can eradicate poverty,illiteracy,,unequality,suicides,budgetary deficeit,Social Integration, Cast differences ,Discrimination....Terrorism,.....& ..Many More."

ME: Thats quite a find. :) What is your charm, which you feel attracts people to you.
RD: Language ,sense of humour,smiling face ,loving nature,sincerity., Transparent Personality.

ME: Your Thumb Rule for Life ?
RD: Be honest to your word ,Inner thoughts ,& pursue it.whatever Happens. You are the winner..!!!!

ME: Thanks for sharing your insightful ideas with us. Iam sure that by integrating the lessons in our life, we will be Winners. Once again i thank you on behalf of my readers for being a guest in the Show. Wish you a successful and blissful future :)
RD: It was a pleasure to be in the show. Thank You !!

Thats it folks !! I hope you had enjoyed this version of PERFECT SHOW. Iam quite grateful to readers who had come back again with their useful feedbacks and have shared the learnings with me. I also thank the guest who have taken time and effort in sharing their life lessons with everyone. I know that Thanks isnt enough but iam grateful for their readiness to enrich others with their knowledge. My humble thanks to them. :)

The next version will be a bit different. What it will be, wait and see !! ;)

A Day with Personality Trainer !!

Look at each day as a chance to invest life into life. A chance to share your experience and deposit it into someone else's conscience. Each day is a chance to work miracles in the lives of others."
- Jim Rohn

Personality development is a continuous phenomenon. It’s a process which takes place every moment we live, either consciously or unconsciously. Only then the fulfillment of our life can be realized. Today we have with us Mr.Chacko Jacob, a Personality Trainer, dedicated to make a difference in others life. He considers himself as an eternal optimist who is rarely down. He is passionate about public speaking and he has numerous public programs to his credit in addition to his regular work as a training manager with “Ganges Internationale”. He is happily married to Elizabeth Jane & have a 2year old son Joshua who is the subject of a few of his motivational talks. He has recently moved to Pondicherry and hopes to make a mark & establish himself there soon.

Me: Prashant Sree – Host
CJ: Chacko Jacob – Guest

Me: Hi Jacob, welcome to the PERFECT show. It’s a pleasure to have you amidst us.
CJ: Thank You.

Me: So tell me Jacob, What are you passionate about in Life ?
CJ: Iam passionate about making a difference in someone’s life through my work

Me: A noble thought !! What have you learnt in your life (other than academics), which you would like to share with others?
CJ: I have had a history of failure in life, particularly academics. But, in spite of failures, I have been able to bounce back to greater heights. I am today a double post graduate in Marketing & HR (BBA, MBA, MHRM, Dip Imp-EX, and Dip NLP). My personal story encourages others to bounce back & this is what I share with others other than the regular training subjects which I train on.

Me: I agree with you. It doesn’t matter how deep we fall but what matters is how well do we bounce back after we fall. Ok, now suppose you are given a wish to change one thing in world,what would you change ?
CJ: The Media – The media is the single most reason why our society is degenerating as a whole. You never hear of true news but rather only the news that shocks & is negative in content. I would like to change the world media into a body that makes people positive, happy & discuss relevant issues to them.

Me: Who is you Favorite Mythological Hero and why?
CJ: Jesus Christ – Though he was not a fable or story, He is my only hero. I wish that like him I could be one single man and Change most of the world for the larger good.

Me: Iam sure that with the real desire, you will be able to achieve what you really want. Now, What would you like to evangelize in your life?
CJ: A way of life that teaches love, joy, peace and harmony among human beings in connection with God is important above all other things.

Me: What is your charm ?
CJ: I look at people when I talk to them. I am able to show empathy with most people & that I believe is my charm. Most people in the world today want someone to listen to them. “I listen” – That make me a charming person.

Me: And, Your Thumb Rule for Life?
CJ: Do the very best, “everyday”, with what ever life hands out to you

Me: All nice things must come to an end. So is with the episode ;). I thank you on behalf of the readers for being with us and wish you success and happiness in all your endeavours.
CJ: Thank You.

Who will be the "Roger Bannister".

Yesterday i read an article "Stronger Rupee = Stronger India" where the Author had discussed the pros and cons of the weakening dollar and strengthening rupee.,.The article also cited the action being contemplated by few software companies about making employee's work one extra day so as to offset the dollar loss.

We, who should be proud about the strengthening rupee backed by a buoyant economy, are in contrast, contemplating the possible repurcussions of this happening. The author wondered why Indians are still depending on low-level service from abroad and why instead of the immense talent pool, we are not able to come up with innovative inventions or discoveries.

Left me thinking about who will be the "RogerBannister" for INDIA, to show us our real potential and change our beliefs.

For those who haven't heard about Roger Bannister, here is a small summary about him. He is called the MIRACLE MAN. Why ? He ran a mile in 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds. Doesn't seems a big deal, Rite ??

You are right.By the modern day standards, this is not a great achievement.But at that time running the mile in four minutes was believed to be entirely beyond the limits of human foot speed. And in all of sport it was the elusive holy grail.

Physicians predicted that running a mile in 4 minutes is not possible because our body is not suited to withstand that amount of strain. It was considered to be beyond the limit of human speed. One writer* explained that the figure seemed so perfectky round - 4 laps ,4 quarter miles, 4 point oh-oh minutes,- that it seemed that God himself has established it as a man's limit.

All said and done,Roger Bannister not only set a new record but also shattered the belief that it was humanly not possible for any man to run a mile in less than 4 minutes. Ironically, less than 2 months later, Roger Bannister record was broken by an Australian athlete who ran a mile in 3 minutes 58 seconds.Since then the record has been broken, bettered many times.



The significant learning is that it was Roger Bannister who went on to show the world that what they thought was unachievable was in fact a stigma, which can be broken by changing our belief..
Similarly in our life, we have so many stigma's attached , that we do not even think of doing something just because some has said it cant be done.

If only we realise the bound-less opportunity around us and live life to the fullest, by changing our belief, Life will never be the same.

* - cited from the book -Tales of Coaching.