The Truly Divine Beauty

Beauty exist in all things. Beauty is universal. Beauty is divine. Iam sure many of you agree with this point. Yet what makes me wonder is the fact that how many of us have actually understood the real meaning of beauty.(Iam as ignorant as many of you, and iam yet to understand beauty in its real meaning).Yet what inspired me to think on this topic, is a recent conversation with a friend of mine(Deepak) about a particular ad. The ad can be found at the below link:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=lJhSogkI284&feature=related


According to him, its an advertisement thats currently doing the rounds on TV channels. It apparently is the untold saga of a brown girl who looses her man to a "pale-white" woman. Yet. there's hope for the brown girl. She can "up" it up by opting to turn pinkish white instead of pale white..and beat her rival to it! She needs to use the magic cream for two weeks, [and continue using it of course, to retain her man].

The content of the ad again turns towards disparaging our identities as brown people and also reinforcing the same thing people have been fighting for for ages- associations to caste/nationality/race to appearances and cultural ideas of beauty and the ugly side effects of conflict these create within women of South Asian origin. My friend found it totally unacceptable and has been trying to spread awareness regarding how these kind of Advertisements should be handled ,as they claim to be "representative of what perceptions of beauty are and should be", which are very much biased and quite untrue.

There is a saying:

"Beauty is only skin deep".

Though everyone knows this, there are only few who really can comprehend what it means. Agreed that, appearances play a major role in first impression, and that "Skin Beauty" is what is perceived by anyone initially,yet what many fail to understand is that over a period of time, its the real beauty which surfaces.

Lets take an instance, a girl who is truly beautiful in nature, feels that she is not fair enough because of the color of the skin, . If she allows herself to be drowned by the idea of what the world thinks of "what is beautiful and what is not", eventually, she begans to loose confidence in herself. She begans to think herself as dark skinned girl who needs some magical cream to become fair again and to be accepted by the world as a fair lady.


This couldnt be any farther away from the truth... What is happening here,is that when the girl has given permission to others to dictate her beauty, she has to live and maintain her beauty in the eyes of others, which is highly superficial. It means if people tell you are beautiful, you are one. If they tell you, you are not beautiful, you are not. This not only leaves you living a falsified life, your own image of yourself- the true beauty takes a beating and lives in recluse.

A simple proof of one's own beauty can be taken from the fact that "For every mother, her children are the most beautiful people on this earth".No one can fence against that.Look at any child, irrespective of whether it is in India, US, Africa, it has and exhibits the same divine beauty.,. To quote a saying:

Every Child is God's own image

But as we grow up, our outlook begans to change, thanks to a large extent, the role played by movies and media advertisements,where they show guys running after showy girls.,. Thats it. It gets programmed in our mind. Apart from the movies and ads, we are equally to be blamed as we are the one who demand it and who began to believe in it and what more we began to propagate the belief.

What we missed out is the fact that, by beautiful, it meant the character not the skin beauty. This self programming and unconscious self- reinforcement happens to such a major extent that as time passes, the superficial outlook gets more prominence than the real beauty and as we grow, we forget our beautiful side, and began to tell ourself that "we are not beautiful". Hence, we cruelly unknowingly allow our own true beauty to drift away.

All said and done, what do we do ... Well, Iam not a preacher, not a philosopher, nor an edified person. Yet from many of the conversations i was fortunate to have with enlightened souls, i know one thing for sure. Accepting our true nature is the first step anyone can take towards realizing his/her true inner beauty.

Once we began to respect us for what we are , it follows automatically that the perceived image of you to others will get enhanced as you have told yourself that you are a radiant of beauty. This in turn slowly evolves to seeing beauty around us. The more beauty we can see, the more we evolve, so this process continues wherein not only we realize our true beauty we also help others realize their true beauty.


To quote Nelson Rockefeller,

“You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.”

P.S: I dont mean to undermine the beauty of fair looking girls. In fact, truly beautiful people in the world are the ones who realize their own beauty as well as recognize the beauty of others.

Yaaradi Nee PM !!

Recently a movie had come in Tamil called "Yaaadi Nee Mohini", a romantic story between a Software employee and the Project Manager. The movie is a hilarious one, with certain scenes that will make the software people cringe, aspiring software people - look upon 'the hero of the
movie' as a GOD.,. I wont go into the nitty-gritty of the movie, that enjoyment i leave it to you to watch the movie and get it.


Yet what fascinated me is the kind of story it has. The story involves the hero joining a software company where he falls in love with the the heroine (who is his boss). The story goes ahead with how the hero proposes to her , she first rejects it and then finally after a elaborate screenplay, they join.,. I said i found it fascinating because of a conversation i had with a friend of mine recently. To give a little background, my friend had joined a company few weeks back and after a stint of training, he was assigned to a project. (Note: He had watched Yaardi Nee Mohini a few weeks back.) The conversation went as below:

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Me: Then how is work da ?
Friend: Work paravaelle da. Enne Projectulu thaniya potturukange... (Work is fine. But Iam working alone in a Project.)

Me: So what. you will get accustomed and maybe more people will join you as time passes.
Friend: I hope so...

The topic as usual shifted to the feminine population in his office and about his team mates.

Me: Then how many people are there in your office.. How many of them are girls ?
Friend: Not many currently.Only 10 as of now. Maybe more will join after few months.

Ama da, enge office le, ponnungele elle, ethulle 10 girls, less nu feel pannuriya.... Hmmmm... ( In my office, there are no girls, and you feel that 10 is less... )

Then he said about how he was put into a new project. How he was selected from 20 students and was allocated a project.

Friend: Hey you know, my PM does not look like a PM itself da...
Me: Why da... Is she so young...?

Friend: No da. She looks like as if she is married and has two childrens.

This perplexed me.,., Generally, PM (Project Managers have an work experience of 8-10 years, so it is normal that people will be above 30 by that time. So logically concluding, people would have got married and would be settled in life. I didnt get his point...

Me: Thats natural rite ?? I didnt get you.

Friend: Elle da. Yaaradi Nee Mohini madhiri, PM younga iruppanganu ethurpathe. Enge enne na, evalavu old da irukkange...( The fact is, i expected my PM to be of young age like that of Yaaradi Nee Mohini. But here it didnt turn out as i expected..)

Me: dei ethu ellam overuuda... ( God help him.......).

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Thats a peek into the mentality of software programmer for you. More often, people who watch movies such as this, entertain such kind of aspirations, and when they enter the real world (work-environment) , they face day-today realities which not only crushes their bubbly spirits but also makes their life monotonous.,. So future-software people, you know what to be cautious against...

Movies are movies.,.

See it.. Enjoy it.. Forget it..

Never Dream about it... ;)

5 Similarities between a Girl Friend and a Book

I just got this idea while conversing with my friends. One of my friend was lamenting on the absence of a Girl Friend in his life and he felt as if he was wasting his precious bachelors life for nothing. And he wondered when he will meet his first love. One of my other friend , a kinda book-oholic, always said that Books was his first love.



This contrast between the two , stirred the devil inside me to come up with a new post: Comparing the pros and cons of having a Book/GF for a company. And this been quite a delicate issue, I have tried to my best not to hurt anyone feelings, and if any one still takes it personal, you should know who to point your finger at ;)

Here we go ahead with the comparisons...

1) One Overt similarity will be that both of them give company(companion) to the individual concerned.

2) Over a period of time, you get bored with the 'same' her(the girl) /it(book) and switch over to something else. This is true in both the cases !!
Corollary: (As always, exception exist !!)

3) A good book/girl friend teaches you something, which will change you for the better in your life...

4) A book quality can be directly or inversely proportional to the number of pages. For eg. a small book of 150 pages can contain invaluable information.,. Also, there are books such as Encyclopedias which not only voluminous pages but also the same amount of information.Same goes with the Girls. In case of a girl, the beauty can be directly or inversely proportional to the intellect. Though the 'inverse part' is true in most of the cases.

5) Echoing the above point, Appearances can be deceptive both in the case of Books as well as Girls. An attractive cover neednt necessarily mean a good book. Similarly, an attractive outward appearance might/might not be an indicator of an attractive character.

To sign off, i would like to leave with this thought. Many of us have heard the saying - "Behind a successful man, there is always a Woman". Iam yet to hear a saying:

"Behind a successful Man, there is always a priceless book".

Well,well what i hear. Did someone say that Books are being discriminated ... Welcome to the real World ;)

P.S: I would like to see how many more similarities one can come up with. If any of you can add to the above ones, (in lighter sense of course ), it will be fabulous. Lemme see how many flex their creative muscles...!!!