tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post535345578309519887..comments2023-10-24T04:57:52.795-07:00Comments on c'est la vie: Dad speaks, Simi listens and Life just goes on!Prashant Sreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-89794796520831154262010-11-01T12:10:25.277-07:002010-11-01T12:10:25.277-07:00An arrangement of conveniences!!!An arrangement of conveniences!!!kakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16975875481299082947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-35024271209966457022009-11-28T02:51:59.057-08:002009-11-28T02:51:59.057-08:00Hmmm... believe, don't believe, god, no god, i...Hmmm... believe, don't believe, god, no god, intercaste, intracaste, love, arranged.. sigh! I guess I've got everybody thinking or at least talking! A bit of my talk is over here -<br /><br />http://karthikbk.livejournal.com/992.html<br /><br />Before anyone asks, it's not "my" story. I only authored it.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607518147662919145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-30201081499120323542008-12-06T20:27:00.000-08:002008-12-06T20:27:00.000-08:00Darn... why do other people blog my exact same ide...Darn... why do other people blog my exact same idea before I do? Anyway, the thoughts presented I agree with, a post is coming soon, reiterating why arranged marriages are better...<BR/><BR/>And, nothing wrong in posting something as long as it is useful and mentioning it's true source, which, in this case, unknown, yet good that you did say it.<BR/><BR/>I left the same comment the first person has left, on a different blog when he copypasted something without credentials.«AM»https://www.blogger.com/profile/00058435311642264119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-32280150279981963812008-11-28T02:45:00.000-08:002008-11-28T02:45:00.000-08:00haan..kyoki this 'hmmm'..means alot of thinking is...haan..kyoki this 'hmmm'..means alot of thinking is going at that time..:)<BR/><BR/>nice..<BR/>Keep Empowering...:):)Gauri Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17507387438932530463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-51031774113120213332008-11-27T03:37:00.000-08:002008-11-27T03:37:00.000-08:00You should really link to the original post..I dis...You should really link to the original post..<BR/>I disagree with most of the father's lecture, about different cultures and stuff, that's just a load of religious bullcrap.. If two people are ready to change then why not.. I think this is the last generation of domination of arranged marriage..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-85513538186841349742008-11-27T00:21:00.000-08:002008-11-27T00:21:00.000-08:00this shows how differently ppl think...now after r...this shows how differently ppl think...<BR/><BR/>now after reading this..my defnition about both has become even more confused...as it happens to me tat i forget my opinion itself after knowing other ppl's <BR/><BR/>niway the post was entertaining...Priya Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09412426062076926939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-89251969507265909762008-11-26T09:37:00.000-08:002008-11-26T09:37:00.000-08:00@Gauri Mathur: Sirf hmmmm ?? ;) Aur kuch nahi ?@Gauri Mathur: Sirf hmmmm ?? ;) Aur kuch nahi ?Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-25247433534056983612008-11-26T09:36:00.005-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.005-08:00And yes, there are two sides of a coin,., hence th...And yes, there are two sides of a coin,., hence the arguments on either side will go on.. It all boils down to the fact how commited are the people in the relationship to make it work..Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-23513051036833049422008-11-26T09:36:00.004-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.004-08:00@Shalom:Nicely captured the essence... "it all com...@Shalom:Nicely captured the essence... "it all comes down to the people involved and whether they are committed enough to their relationships - with spouse or parents or siblings - to make it work."Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-18060123734035142562008-11-26T09:36:00.003-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.003-08:00@Destination Infinity: Lol !! ;) Like having a per...@Destination Infinity: Lol !! ;) Like having a person ready for sacrifice, before starting the blame game ?? ;)Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-1796938040940722852008-11-26T09:36:00.002-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.002-08:00@RiverSoul: Liked these words "Coz its my life and...@RiverSoul: Liked these words "Coz its my life and i can't let anyone else's ideas overrule my choices.". At the same time, having your elders consent and their blessings will be invaluable in its own way... But marrying just for the sake of maintaining a good image in a community wont be too of a bliss, when the individuals in question do not like each other... Marriage is more than that !!Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-87424750282948895202008-11-26T09:36:00.001-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.001-08:00@Srinivas Iyer: Hey thanks for dropping by... :) ...@Srinivas Iyer: Hey thanks for dropping by... :) Your opinion will find sufficient support too... Its the individuals who will live their life whose compatibility matters.. Other issues might come up, but as long as the mutual love and trust is there, it should work out !!Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-51728080779855736072008-11-26T09:36:00.000-08:002008-11-26T09:36:00.000-08:00@Anjuli: Yes, quite true... The elders wisdom does...@Anjuli: Yes, quite true... The elders wisdom does guides us and will help us for sure... Like a beacon light !!Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-53356274586719760872008-11-26T08:53:00.000-08:002008-11-26T08:53:00.000-08:00hmmmmmm:)hmmmmmm:)Gauri Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17507387438932530463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-8604852726558772172008-11-26T04:43:00.000-08:002008-11-26T04:43:00.000-08:00This is the argument of most parents and it undoub...This is the argument of most parents and it undoubtedly has its merits, because at least in Indian culture, we believe marriage is also the coming together of two families.<BR/><BR/>But it isn't necessary that just because it was an arranged marriage that both families get along well, or that the spouses get along well. Similarly, just because two people may have had a love marriage doesn't mean that families would be divided. <BR/><BR/>In my circle of family and friends itself I have seen successes and failures in both love and arranged marriages, so one cannot really generalise and say that one is superior to the other ..... it all comes down to the people involved and whether they are committed enough to their relationships - with spouse or parents or siblings - to make it work.Salomiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390297289267521453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-66654612107676593482008-11-26T02:47:00.000-08:002008-11-26T02:47:00.000-08:00I think arranged marriages are better. At least yo...I think arranged marriages are better. At least you can put the blame on your parents.....<BR/><BR/>Destination InfinityAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-58936068517428841142008-11-25T22:25:00.000-08:002008-11-25T22:25:00.000-08:00I'm very glad you published this in ur Blog, Prash...I'm very glad you published this in ur Blog, Prashant.<BR/>:)<BR/>But i must say, that the story is not exactly what i'd call "the whole truth." <BR/>What the father described to d girl, was only a half truth..... And most of it were estimations.<BR/>But i'll agree that problems are bound to happen in such cases. Its natural, after all, to have religious fanatics and people with extremely narrow minded ideas abt other religions to exist in every family. Tradition demands that we keep up the social stature of our respective clans, right? <BR/>But answer me this, <BR/> <BR/>Who created religion? <BR/>Man did.<BR/> <BR/>Who created ethnical boundaries?<BR/>Man did<BR/> <BR/>Who created public unrest in the name of Gods?<BR/>Man did.<BR/> <BR/>What did the "oh-so-just Gods" do? <BR/>Nothing.<BR/> <BR/>I'm in complete agreement with Mr. Srinivas here, when it comes to scientific analysis of inbreeding.<BR/> <BR/> <BR/> <BR/>Lets bust a myth here. right now.<BR/> <BR/>Its assumed that arranged marriages last longer than eloped couples or inter caste/religious marriages/love marriages.<BR/> <BR/>In reality, even arranged marriages have an equal chance of ending up in a divorce attorney's courtroom, and even more so, Bcoz most of d time, we find that the arranged couple have much more differences than similarities.<BR/> <BR/>I'd go with my heart more than my brain here.... Coz its my life and i can't let anyone else's ideas overrule my choices. Not unless i know that my ideas are wrong.<BR/>If people stay as narrow minded as the father here, it will definitely not ever be something to be proud of. <BR/>Much like sacrificing Urself to the altar of religion and family honour. <BR/>Any criticism towards my comment, will be gracefully reviewed by me.<BR/>:)<BR/>And i stand by my views. Untill someone can convince me otherwise, maybe?RiverSoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15417054068931773922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-39184610680269035002008-11-25T21:21:00.000-08:002008-11-25T21:21:00.000-08:00Having born a south indian and lived elsewhere, i ...Having born a south indian and lived elsewhere, i have imbibed the best of the two cultures. despite agreeing to the fact that the marriage is a step further to friendship, i totally fail to see the point of incompatibility with friends of totally different backgrounds (they form a very major part of my life too).. there are zillions of examples of successful marriages of different ethnicities and many more of unsuccessful ones in the same category.. above all by allowing breeding within a similar gene pool, you statistically deprive the nature of accelerated evolution and producing superior human.. i do not favor arranged marriages.. choice of partner has to be random.. all of the above is just my personal opinion :DSrini Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13438470582997922078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-64475538347429701102008-11-25T18:58:00.000-08:002008-11-25T18:58:00.000-08:00having grown up kids- I totally agree with Simi's ...having grown up kids- I totally agree with Simi's final comment about seeing the wisdom in discussing with elders! Thankfully my children have been raised to do so- and they do not end up making so many of the mistakes that their friends make. It has been sad for me in coming to the West to see how the respect for elders is minimized- and I see this as a breakdown of the society as a whole. Whether we like it or not- an older person has 'been there and done that'- so much of their wisdom is tested and is of great value!!Anjulihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16563616683370799899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-70555219386385061822008-11-25T07:30:00.000-08:002008-11-25T07:30:00.000-08:00@Aparna: I dunno if the last line "which negates t...@Aparna: I dunno if the last line <BR/>"which negates the whole idea of copying ...." was a compliment or a mark of sarcasm !! ;) <BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your views !!Prashant Sreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028728984318324067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8778447007242415497.post-18820761366117844282008-11-25T05:26:00.000-08:002008-11-25T05:26:00.000-08:00that was a good lecture indeed a look at it reveal...that was a good lecture indeed a look at it reveals the other side of the story....I don't call it plagiarism but I wish I could get the link to the original write up.here in ur blog....which negates the whole idea of copying ....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com