Before any of you let your imagination go flying let me state upfront that this post has (mostly)nothing to do with the Husband and concerns itself with the Wife's role to a large extent. I had intended to have the title of this post as "Kyooki Husbands bhi Kabhi Bachelors thee".But then for universal understanding,i decided to stick by English title ! This post intends to analyze the situation of boys after his marriage when he dons the role of Husband !
Two of my good friends have got engaged this month. Few days back , they were relating the Engagement experiences and sharing the photos of their fiances.On talking about their fiances,their answers were like this "Avan, Software company le work pannuran" (He works in a Software company), "Avan rombe sadhu type" (He is of a calm demeanor) etc. For people unaccustomed to Indian traditions, they must understand 2 words before we proceed further. "Avan" and "Avange".
Both denotes "He" in English but the degree of respect varies in both. 'Avange' is used to imply that we consider the person with respect (explicitly conveyed in the words).It doesn't mean that 'Avan' shows lack of respect yet 'Avan' is used on a informal level and the lack of respect can be explicitly seen. I presume that you would be scratching your heads over 'Avan' and 'Avange' so to make Matters simple,'Avange' shows respect and 'Avan' doesn't when using it in sentence.
You might be wondering why Am I probing this matter over two words which differ by two letters 'ge'. If you consider the yesteryear's generation,say our grandparents/parents generation, the respect the women had for their husbands was explicitly shown in the way they addressed their husbands. Those times the women considered their better half to be equivalent to God. Contrast that with today's scenario when some women not even consider their better half to be half better than them ;D. (Not that I regret that this change has occurred). Today many women consider their hubbies to be equivalent to friends. This change implies the growing confidence of the women folks which is good for everyone.
On a funnier note,what inspired this post is the pitiable situation of the men folks.We all know that Man was expected to work and earn income for the family. Excluding a few men who were in higher strata,the others belonged to the middle or lower working class. They either worked under someone for a wage or carried out the instructions under the supervision of someone. So mostly Home was the only place where he could expect 100% respect for him from his wife. I assume this gave him the courage and patience to endure the hardship at work and go on earning for the family. Contrast that with today's situation where Home would be the place where he least expects to get respect !!! Even his peers might respect him but that would vanish as soon as he enters his home. Say few years back the girls used to address her fiances as "Avange" which over a period of time changed to "Avan".But in the current fast paced life, it starts with 'Avan' itself !!! ;) Whereas for women the above scenario works in reverse manner. (Home is the place where they have guaranteed 120% respect,the situation at work place might differ)
Another point which i noted was that in most of the engagement photos,the girl would be flashing the brightest smile (Yes, the MENTOS smile with brightness of 105%) and the guy would be flashing a feeble smile (say, brightness of zero watt bulb). I assume both must be thinking about their future. The Guy who had been a free bird till now imagines himself as a caged bird. And the girl who has been waiting to catch hold of someone who can listen to her endless talks and who can take over the role of her paying her shopping invoices has finally found that person. In a conversation i had with my friends, it seems an interesting trend is been observed in IT industry. People who are bachelors generally work late and now there is a new genre joining them for company. Any guesses who ???
They are the people who have been married for an year or so. It so happens that once a guy gets married he starts for home immediately as soon as the clock strikes 6. This goes on for say 4-6 months after which the tireless talks and the unstoppable shopping takes the toll on him and he prefers the safe haven of the company for an extended extra time of 1-2 hours.
Considering all the facts,it seems that the current generation might mark the new era for the women. Not only are they going to get the 33% reservation in Parliament in India (which seems very viable in the current government period), the trends points that a day may come when Men would have to fight for their rights and ask for reservation in Parliament... [One thing which puzzles me is the fact that how the Women Bill hasn't yet been rectified and passed by the politicians taking into account the fact that many are married !!!]
P.S: The post was meant purely as a funny one and does not intend to undermine the women role in the family in anyway. Women are equal to men in every aspect(barring a few) and completes him. The current scenario where both the man and woman take equal responsibility of running the family and are in a equal footing is good for the family,society and the Nation as well. I also take this chance to wish my two friends a very Happy and a Prosperous future life with their hubbies !